the perfect child?

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Anonymous --

No, Hannah is not the perfect child, by any means. Was anything said to Hannah? Ummm, yeah. Her time with Stephanie is limited to school at this point. Her cell phone is gone and she is grounded for an undetermined amount of time. Ashley told on Hannah out of spite. Because Hannah had told on Ashley about being dropped off by Chanell (she had seen them on the moped on her way to get the smokes)

Smoking was not the only thing that we found out about Hannah that night. The family meeting was divided between Hannah and Ashley equally. The difference between the two is Hannah is crying, desperate and apologetic. Ashley sits being smug and sadistic.

In one of my earlier post I mentioned how much time and energy has been spent on Ashley that Hannah has often times been neglected. Yes, Ashley probably is jealous of Hannah. The difference is, Hannah actually seems to learn (at this time, that may change as she gets older like it did with Ashley) from her mistakes and appreciates the guidance and punishment that comes with them. She doesn't look at it like we are trying to sabotage her or try to "keep her down" as Ashley told us.

Ashley said it was more Stephanie smoking than Hannah. It was Stephanie who stole the purse from the mall, and it was Stephanie who cuts on her knee as well. No, the family meeting was not all about Ashley. Hannah, after getting in trouble still comes, gives us a hug and through her crying eyes says "Im so sorry Mom" Not for us, for her.

Yes, Ashley seems to think Hannah is the perfect child, which, she is not. Hannah has not seemed to delve as far as Ashley has yet, and she won't. We are a much more informed consumer if you will. We have learned from Ashley. Mistakes will not be repeated.

I am fully aware that we were still in love with Ashley freshman year and it may all change with Hannah next year. All I can do is learn, be wise and protect. If anything we are actually harder on Hannah because of what we have been through will Ashley.

I appreciate your objective comment, and I completely agree that Ashley is crying out for help, she just doesn't want it from us.